May I make a suggestion?  As a chaplain, I received great advice from a wise therapist recently about how to handle special days like Father’s Day, birthdays, Christmas, and anniversaries.

It helps each person with their grief when they decide how they want to recognize the special day.

Here’s the key, ask the question, “How do you want to remember the special day?” 

Until we take time to reflect – or to ask others, we don’t know what we or others are experiencing.  Often we don’t take the time to reflect or we guess or assume how others are feeling.

If we care about ourselves and others we will choose to not guess or assume. If we take the time to ask, all will feel loved and cared for – especially if we hear what they say and make an effort to do what they ask.

Don’t guess, don’t assume… ask.  Let’s try it out today and on special days and watch how the love and care increases!